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Sex Blogger Spotlight Series: Switch Studies

I read quite a few sex blogs. Many of them are excellent, but I hadn’t found any written by someone who shares my identity as a polyamorous bisexual switch. I’d find myself nodding along with a perspective about kink only to be jarred by a sentence that implied that of course all relationships are monogamous, or reading about polyamory from a perspective that doesn’t allow for consensual power dynamics in relationships. It felt as though reading a representation of sexuality that encompassed my experience required cobbling bits and pieces of others’ writing into a sort of kinky Frankenstein’s monster. If I was going to be doing that anyway, I may as well put it out there for anyone else who might be interested.

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Birthday & Anniversary 2014 Part Nine: Saying Goodbye & the Journey Home

We were in fine spirits when we got back to the room, just right for a long, long night of passion and romance. And kink and punishment. I woke up very sore but happy late on Sunday morning. Sadly it was time to make our way home but not before we’d stocked up with a full English at the local Spoons in town.

We waved our goodbyes to Lincoln city centre and the cathedral and sped back home, past the sun blessed fields of the Lincolnshire countryside.

We had such a fantastic weekend – and we can’t wait to get away again the weekend after this, for a family trip to Legoland, Windsor! I’ve warmed up with Big Cam (Canon 350D) now, so hopefully the pictures will be less shaky and in need of editing, which takes quite a bit of time. It’s all great fun though, and I’m enjoying a summer not as chained to the desk as last year.

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Birthday & Anniversary 2014 Part Eight: Saturday Drinks and Dinner

It was time to think about dinner again. We were, by this time, hot, aching and ready for a freshen up so we headed back to the hotel for a change then visited the Strait and Narrow again for cocktails while we mused upon where to eat that night.

Eventually we decided to see what was happening down at Brayford Wharf and got a table at Prezzos which is always good for a hearty feast and Sable loves the menu there too.

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Birthday & Anniversary 2014 Part Seven: Lincoln Cathedral

Once we’d clambered to the top of Steep Hill in the heat of the early afternoon, we reached the second punch and judy show of the day by the Magna Carta pub near the entrance to the cathedral. It must be punch and judy season, although there does seem to be a seaside and promenade missing here in the heart of Lincolnshire! Our next stop was, of course, Lincoln Cathedral.

This imposing and breathtaking architectural delight has been on my list of town to-dos since I saw it upon moving to Lincs. The fact that it’s a religious building is by the by for me, as I am not religious in any way. You can’t deny the beauty and overwhelming greatness of this cathedral though, which just goes to show what we can do if we put our minds to it.

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Birthday & Anniversary 2014 Part Five: The Collection Gallery & Museum

Next stop was The Collection, which is midway up Steep Hill and home to the Usher Art Gallery and the Lincoln Museum. I’d been wanting to visit the gallery for years and was glad to finally be able to go and see all the works of art.

I wasn’t able to take any photographs inside but it’s a must visit if you’re in Lincoln. The art is incredibly moving and emotive, and you learn so much at the museum too. The cafe is clean and well stocked and there’s a play area for the kids too if you bring them along.

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Birthday & Anniversary 2014 Part Four: Lunch at Wagamamas

Heading to Brayford Wharf, we hoped there was room at Wagamama Lincoln. I love Wagamamas. The Japanese influence is fragrant and refreshing, and something different to the usual cuisine seen in most restaurants in the UK. I find the tastes similar to Thai which I also adore.

We were in luck as the place was almost empty. Early lunch. I switched from the heavy camera in my hand to a lighter and very welcome glass of chilled white, and we perused the huge menu.

I’d been to the place before and was delighted to see that they still offered chilli squid to start. I love calamari. Sable started with something called ‘tori kara age’ which is deep fried chicken pieces with a chilli, ginger and soy sauce dip.

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Birthday & Anniversary 2014 Part Three: Birthday Morning & the City Centre

Saturday morning dawned beautifully bright and sunny – not that I could tell until I drew back the blackout curtains – and with it, my birthday! I was so happy I leapt out of bed, glad that I didn’t have any hangover (strangely) and got ready fairly quickly, impatient to start the day. I wore my new red and black dress from minnie as it seemed perfect for such an occasion.

Sable was soon up and about too, and I opened the gifts he’d saved for the day. Perfume, a new charm for my Amore bracelet, a hand engraved hip flask (this made me tear up a little) and a notebook. Perfect.

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Birthday & Anniversary 2014 Part Two: Friday Drinks and Dinner

Next stop was Walkabout Lincoln, as I’d wanted to visit there for a while and it had always been closed when I was able to visit. I’d been to this Australian bar chain before but not this particular one. Upon seeing that they served mojitos, I was sold. It came in a too-cute-for-words jam jar and Sable had another amaretto and coke, his drink of choice. A happy happenstance is that by the time we’d finished our first drinks it was happy hour, so we had to stay for another which was half price. it would have been rude not to, really.

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Birthday and Anniversary Weekend in Lincoln, UK: Part One

This year’s birthday and anniversary celebrations with Sable were the best to date. Our plans to take Lincoln by storm worked a treat and we combined two nights in a hotel with wining, dining and seeing some of the local attractions.

The Hotel

We stayed right in the heart of the city in the Broadgate Lincoln Premier Inn, which gave us everything we could have wanted and more. The room was air conditioned to the point of being chilled, which was so very welcome in the midst of our unusual heatwave in the UK. I think it’s called ‘summer’ elsewhere in the world.

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Feel More Attractive, Sexy & Confident – 10 Ways to Give Your Self Esteem a Much Needed Boost

Knowing what you like in and out of bed is always good for your self-esteem, but we’re going to focus on between the sheets for this one. It can be difficult to feel confident in bed if you are unsure about what turns you on, so do some research! Treat yourself to some alone time and satisfy your curiosity – that means experimenting with toys, movies and whatever else takes your fancy. When you are more confident about what brings you pleasure, you’ll find that it’s a lot easier to be more assertive. That’s out of the bedroom too!

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Erotica News: Free excerpt from Bound for Trouble edited by Alison Tyler

So, hell, now I find myself hog-tied, wrists bound to ankles with silky red rope, in the swanky riverside apartment of some guy that, until just over an hour ago, I’d never laid eyes on. All I’ve got on is a pair of black lace panties and a pair of Rupert Sanderson stilettos, having left my dignity somewhere over by the door. I’ve never been tied up before, I’ve never been spanked before and I’ve certainly no idea what’s going to happen next. And I have to say, I think I’m enjoying myself. But how the fuck did I get myself into this in the first place?

I think it was something I said.

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Erotic Author Spotlight Series: Dark Inferno

Finding she wore no bra beneath the black lace, his hand moulded to her left breast; it filled his hand nicely and eager digits kneading the soft, supple flesh while his thumb and forefinger rolled the pebbled nipple. Thrilled by his touch, she arched her back, pressing her breast further into his palm, and moaned in utter wonder as he trailed his tongue along her collarbone, soothing the bite marks, her fingers tugging at his hair each time his thumb her playfully squeezed her pert bud.

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Competition: Share your best sex tip to win one of 50 Durex Embrace Pleasure Gels Sets!

To celebrate the release of the Fifty Shades of Grey movie trailer, Durex are giving 50 lucky Cara Sutra readers the chance to win a Durex Embrace Pleasure Gels set. That’s right, there is a mountainous FIFTY sets to give away!

All you need to do to enter is firstly, be a resident of the UK or Republic of Ireland, then share your best sex tip – or a tip for heightening the intimacy and pleasure in the bedroom – as a comment on this blog post.

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Together for four years – and this weekend we try something new

We’re actually staying in a hotel room, for two nights, the two of us (my man and I) without anyone else. For most people in a relationship this long, this would have been out of the way and done with in the first 6 months, a year at most. Definitely before having a child, in any case. Not us. We’ve always had someone with us when we’ve stayed anywhere, from ex partners to the chauffeur slave who attends events with us.

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A mountain of sex toys but still need sex? Don’t worry, it’s natural

Physical intercourse, or sex with another person, ticks psychological boxes that masturbation doesn’t have on its radar. Sex is a whole different ball game. You are considering the other person’s reactions to you, your body, your actions and words, as well as putting time and effort into discovering how best to please their body and mind. Sex is hard – excuse the pun. But still we desperately search it, seeking the advice of men’s and women’s sexual health magazines and international sex experts in a bid to become the most eligible sex partner (and sometimes life partner) we could possibly be.

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Sex Blogger Spotlight Series: Missy May

I love interacting. It’s not often that some one comments on one of my posts, but it really means a lot to me. And I love responding and interacting when some one does take the time to comment. I also love how I am always learning. I am always researching, asking questions, reading, and more. Not only am I learning about the world of sex, sex positive stuff, rape culture, toy materials, etc, I am also learning coding and how to handle WordPress issues, and my favorite part is digging deeper and learning to be part of my niche’s community.

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The Act Itself: A brand new print magazine devoted to the world of erotica

I was delighted to receive the debut issue of The Act Itself recently, free of charge in exchange for an honest overview and communication to my erotica loving audience here at Cara Sutra. My first impression upon opening the discreet, well wrapped package was the size of the magazine. Instead of little more than a leaflet which I was expecting (print is very expensive), I held in my hands an A4, glossy leafed book, rather than a magazine. With 150 pages to leaf through (which are admittedly in black and white unlike the outer cover) I knew that this was a magazine which would easily see any avid fan of erotica through four months until the next issue arrived on the mat.

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Sex Toys Reviews Round Up: HedoVibes #51

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