Sex basics: 6 steps to help you prepare for the best sex of your life

Don’t fall prey to a disorganised sex life – make sure you’re organised and always be prepared for sex. It’s easy enough to stock up with batteries, condoms and lube in the bedside drawer, and you need to make sure you recharge those rechargeable vibrators if they’re running low. Have a selection of sex toys by the bed so that you can swap to a more suitable one in the heat of the moment if the mood takes you.

It’s also a great idea to keep a pack of wet wipes, some tissue and even an old towel or two around for spills and sex messes. Hey, we all know they happen – let’s not be shy here.


Win the brand new Stories of O: Orgasmic Erotica e-book (plus: how to get a free erotic paperback)

Warm up with Saskia Walker’s steamy “Communal,” a story about a college girl who seduces other students in shower stalls. Next, a couple discovers a devious use for their spatula while cooking breakfast in Kristina Wright’s “(S)pan(k)cakes.” In A. D. R. Forte’s “Endymion,” two models with statuesque bodies succumb to their mutual lust inside an artist’s studio. A woman uses Kegel exercises to send her lover into sexual nirvana in Donna George Storey’s “The Big O.” In “Not Without Permission” by Sinclair Sexsmith, a dom considers allowing her submissive to orgasm, but not before she’s had some fun with her strap-on first. And finally, in Thomas Roche’s “Butterfly’s Kiss,” an inexperienced dom visits an underground sex club and discovers a new bag of tricks.

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Sex Blogger Spotlight Series: Kinky Biker Mom

Hello, I am Kinky Biker Mom I am a ‘sex blogger’ I write about my own experiences and make up some stories for my erotica but mostly I write about the adventures of biker hubby and I. I am forty something and have been with my partner since I was 14 years old. We have grown together and had many adventures together. I began to do my blog 1 year ago in July and will also celebrate my birthday. My daughter is a sex blogger and she is the one that got me started with my blog and she helps keep me updated and does the maintenance on my blog. Biker hubby and I enjoy riding motor cycles and spending time together, we do enjoy a dom/sub relationship, however we added our own twist to it because we switch roles now-an-then. I am mostly dominate in the relationship but enjoy turning over the reigns to biker hubby so that he can take charge.


Why I really hate the phrase ‘man up’

‘Man up’ assumes that anything relating to femininity is automatically weaker. It is telling someone to become better, become stronger, to become more like a man. It uses masculinity as a measure of strength, not only physically, but in any and every area of life. It assumes that the only way a person will be successful in any particular regard or reach their goals is by adopting stereotypical male attitudes and qualities.

Your Guide to Preparing for A Steamy Session if it’s ‘Been a While’

Ok, so it’s been a while and you’re thinking ‘Oh god, oh god, oh god, where so I start?’ this guide will help you to stop thinking ‘Oh god’ and have you fully prepared to have you screaming ‘Oh god’
Stop, take a breath… it’s all going to be just fine. This is the point where you should be excited! Sex can be a little daunting if it’s been a while, but it’s not hard (well… apart from one thing we hope!) relax and just think about how good you’re going to feel.


The 50 Best Sex & Intimacy Tips from the Durex Embrace Gels Competition Winners

If you keep a close eye on all things Cara Sutra (ooh-er) you’ll know that a stupendously popular Durex UK competition ended on Friday night. The competition to win one of 50 (yes, fifty) free sets of Durex Embrace Pleasure Gels. It was easy to enter and the competition was entitled Fifty Ways to Play, in honour of the new 50 Shades of Grey movie trailer release.

Did you leave your best sex and intimacy tip on the competition? If you didn’t, it’s too late now – but you can take a look at the lucky winners and their entries below.


Erotic Author Spotlight Series: Jillian Boyd (Lady Laid Bare)

Her breasts hung from her chest, full enough to justify that multitude of undergarments. I lay beneath them and pressed my nose up between them, inhaling the close scent of the hidden skin there. She cried out when I licked her nipple, and sobbed when I nipped it with my teeth. By the time I got to her belly, it was twitching and jumping at my every touch. I couldn’t wait any longer. I wrapped one arm around the backs of her thighs and pulled her body down onto my face.

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Sex Blogger Spotlight Series: Millennia Toy Box

If you know and understand your sexuality, you will have a much easier time with partner sex. I also hate how it’s perfectly fine for 13 year old boys to wank into their dad’s playboy (sorry, that was a bit heteronormative) but for a 13 year old girl to touch herself, it’s taboo. I just can’t accept that. If I have kids, and if I have a daughter, I’m going to teach her that there is no shame in masturbation, that it’s beautiful, natural, and feels amazing.

Sun, Sea & Sex: How to Bag a Holiday Hottie & Have The Trip of a Lifetime!

Going on holiday is all about leaving boring everyday life behind, so why not let your holiday escapades reflect that? If you’re meeting someone and having sex with them for the first time, it’s time to shed your inhibitions and do what you have always wanted to do in bed. Whether it is a new position or having sex in public, as long as your partner is into it, then don’t hold back. You won’t be worrying about what pre-conceptions your hook-up may have of you, and as long as you are safe, your fling need not have any lasting consequences. So pack some confidence into that suitcase of yours too, and you’ll have gorgeous guy’s queueing up to get up close and personal with you.


Erotic Author Spotlight Series: Toni Barca & new book, Recall

TAJ Barca was born in Paris and raised by a pirate. A world-traveled artist, writer, seeker, and eternal optimist, she finds truth in the most unlikely places. RECALL is a part of a trilogy, book two of the Anima & Animus series, TABOO, is scheduled for release in 2015. Barca is also a visual artist and has illustrated a pillow book titled The Songs of Solomon: A Pillow Book for Breast Cancer Survivors & Their Lovers, also available on


Competition: Win a £100 sex toys and bondage gear voucher spend at Adored

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have some spare cash for all those sex toys, sexy lingerie and bondage gear you’ve been lusting over?
Here’s your chance.
To celebrate the release of the new 50 Shades of Grey movie trailer, as well as in anticipation of the film, Adored are giving one lucky Cara Sutra competition entrant the chance to win a massive £100 voucher spend at


Sex Blogger Spotlight Series: Switch Studies

I read quite a few sex blogs. Many of them are excellent, but I hadn’t found any written by someone who shares my identity as a polyamorous bisexual switch. I’d find myself nodding along with a perspective about kink only to be jarred by a sentence that implied that of course all relationships are monogamous, or reading about polyamory from a perspective that doesn’t allow for consensual power dynamics in relationships. It felt as though reading a representation of sexuality that encompassed my experience required cobbling bits and pieces of others’ writing into a sort of kinky Frankenstein’s monster. If I was going to be doing that anyway, I may as well put it out there for anyone else who might be interested.


Birthday & Anniversary 2014 Part Nine: Saying Goodbye & the Journey Home

We were in fine spirits when we got back to the room, just right for a long, long night of passion and romance. And kink and punishment. I woke up very sore but happy late on Sunday morning. Sadly it was time to make our way home but not before we’d stocked up with a full English at the local Spoons in town.

We waved our goodbyes to Lincoln city centre and the cathedral and sped back home, past the sun blessed fields of the Lincolnshire countryside.

We had such a fantastic weekend – and we can’t wait to get away again the weekend after this, for a family trip to Legoland, Windsor! I’ve warmed up with Big Cam (Canon 350D) now, so hopefully the pictures will be less shaky and in need of editing, which takes quite a bit of time. It’s all great fun though, and I’m enjoying a summer not as chained to the desk as last year.


Birthday & Anniversary 2014 Part Eight: Saturday Drinks and Dinner

It was time to think about dinner again. We were, by this time, hot, aching and ready for a freshen up so we headed back to the hotel for a change then visited the Strait and Narrow again for cocktails while we mused upon where to eat that night.

Eventually we decided to see what was happening down at Brayford Wharf and got a table at Prezzos which is always good for a hearty feast and Sable loves the menu there too.


Birthday & Anniversary 2014 Part Seven: Lincoln Cathedral

Once we’d clambered to the top of Steep Hill in the heat of the early afternoon, we reached the second punch and judy show of the day by the Magna Carta pub near the entrance to the cathedral. It must be punch and judy season, although there does seem to be a seaside and promenade missing here in the heart of Lincolnshire! Our next stop was, of course, Lincoln Cathedral.

This imposing and breathtaking architectural delight has been on my list of town to-dos since I saw it upon moving to Lincs. The fact that it’s a religious building is by the by for me, as I am not religious in any way. You can’t deny the beauty and overwhelming greatness of this cathedral though, which just goes to show what we can do if we put our minds to it.


Birthday & Anniversary 2014 Part Five: The Collection Gallery & Museum

Next stop was The Collection, which is midway up Steep Hill and home to the Usher Art Gallery and the Lincoln Museum. I’d been wanting to visit the gallery for years and was glad to finally be able to go and see all the works of art.

I wasn’t able to take any photographs inside but it’s a must visit if you’re in Lincoln. The art is incredibly moving and emotive, and you learn so much at the museum too. The cafe is clean and well stocked and there’s a play area for the kids too if you bring them along.