Sex Toy Advice

Sex toy shopping can be exciting, exhilarating, fantasy-inducing… and confusing. There are just so many sex toys available these days, with improvements added and different styles being created all the time. That’s why I’ve written these sex toy advice articles here at the Cara Sutra sex blog.

First of all, do you really need sex toys? Adult products are more of a desirable accessory than a need, and they’re most definitely not a replacement for sex. Nobody should feel ashamed about their sex toy use, or threatened because their partner enjoys using them. Hell, there are even plenty of couples sex toys available which heighten the pleasure levels for both partners during intimacy. So even though toys might not be a need or pre-requisite for having sexy fun, they’re an incredibly enjoyable bonus feature. Think of them like ticking the ‘added fun’ box on your sexual take-out order.

Next, consider what type of sex toy would be best for you. There are many different types: vibrating, static, large, small, flexible, rigid, for vaginal, clitoral, anal and erogenous zone stimulation. Then there is the material it’s made of to consider. Some materials are full body-safe for internal and external use, others are toxic and could cause allergic reactions, irritation or worse. What does porous and non-porous mean? What are phthalates? Does any of this really matter when considering which sex toy to buy and try?

Find out all of the above and more in my sex toy advice articles here on the blog.

Sex Toy Storage Options: How To Store Adult Toys Discreetly

I know how easy it is to get hooked on adding exciting new sex toys to your collection regularly. Before you know it, your bedside drawer is too small to store all those wonderful vibrators & dildos. What other sex toy storage options are available? What’s the best way to store adult toys discreetly?

Cheap Sexy Gift Ideas: Edible Underwear & Candy Love Rings

Enjoy my guide to edible underwear and candy love rings - plus other bedroom treats which you can exchange with your partner at any time of year as cheap sexy gifts. They are especially ideal as small romantic Christmas gifts though; sexy stocking fillers for an intimate festive moment. Or you could treat them for Valentine's Day or their birthday!

Halloween-Themed Sex Toys Guide

Welcome to my frighteningly orgasmic Halloween-Themed Sex Toys Guide! In this feature I’m going to showcase some truly scream-worthy vibrators, dildos, anal toys and more which are sure to go down a treat this Halloween –or any time of the year. If you’ve been looking for inspiration for a formidable sex toy for hair-raising personal pleasure, or an electrifying adult toy to share with your partner, you’re in the right place.

Travel-Friendly Sex Toys Guide

My travel-friendly sex toys guide will help you choose vibrators, dildos, butt plugs and more which you can slip into your suitcase - then somewhere even better once you reach your destination. In this travelling with sex toys advice guide you’ll discover the top features you should look for in a travel-friendly vibrator, how to get your sex toys through the airport without embarrassment, and where to get these discreet but effective toys even if you have a tight budget.

Best Cheap Sex Toys When You’re On A Tight Budget

When shopping for adult pleasure products on a tight budget, it’s important to seek out items which are not just low-priced but the best quality at that price, too. With 14 years’ experience as a sex toy reviewer and sex blogger, I’m eager to share my insights with you. I want to help ensure you’re spending that hard-earned cash on the best cheap sex toys for you.

What Is A Violet Wand? History of Violet Wands & Kinky Uses

Violet wands are commonly used stimulation tools in the realm of BDSM & Electrosex. They provide a uniquely thrilling experience for those exploring kinky pleasure and consensual power exchange. Read on as I delve into the history of violet wands, explain what they are & how they work, and reveal their kinky uses.
Experiment: I Left A Silicone Sex Toy In Silicone Lube For 3 Months

I Left A Silicone Sex Toy In Silicone Lube For 3 Months – And...

Are you wondering if silicone lubes can damage your silicone toys? If so, that doesn't surprise me. This rumour/myth remains prevalent in online sex toy shop product descriptions and various sexual health guides. What happens when silicone lube is used with silicone sex toys? Does silicone lube erode the silicone material? I wanted to prove once and for all what exactly does happen when silicone lubricant is used with a silicone sex toy – and not only used with, but left to soak for quite some time. So here it is! My experiment, where I left a silicone sex toy in silicone lube for 3 months…

Tips For Spring Cleaning Your Sex Life

In a long-term relationship, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comfortable but ultimately monotonous sex with each other. That’s why I wanted to share my top tips for spring cleaning your sex life. While everything else is getting a spring clean, don’t neglect your personal and shared sexual pleasure!

How To Spring Clean Your Sex Toy Collection

How many sex toys have you got? Where do you store them? Do you just have a couple of vibrators in the bedside drawer, or masses of dildos shoved under the bed? No matter if your orgasm kit is big or small, setting time aside to spring clean your sex toy collection is a great idea.

My Favourite Sex Toys: Bedside Drawer ‘Handy Grab’ Collection [Updated]

This is the small selection of sex toys that I just love so much that they’ve made it to permanent residence in my bedside drawer, rather than being rated too mediocre or for some other reason relegated to being put back in the box and into storage in the loft or garage. Today I’d like to share details of my favourite sex toys right now: what exactly is in my current bedside drawer handy grab collection?

Ultimate Valentine’s Day Sexy Gift Guide

Valentine's Day is the annual day when lovers celebrate their passion. What are your Valentine plans this year? It's traditional to gift your special someone something romantic and thoughtful, and maybe make some plans along the same lines. Couples usually buy each other a card, a gift and spend time together on the day celebrating the magic of their ongoing relationship. What should you buy them this year?

Heat Up Your Sex Life In Winter With These Warming Sex Toys

I've already shared my thoughts on surprising ways the cold season can improve your sex life; today I'm sharing my recommendations for warming sex toys & other pleasure products to heat up your sex life in winter.
Masturbation in a Sex-Positive World

Masturbation in a Sex-Positive World (3 Trends for 2023)

If you’re reading this, you’re most likely a sex-positive person. But shall we talk about Masturbation Positivity? Despite an ongoing shift in sex culture and education, the self-pleasure taboo remains. Let’s break it! 

How To Enjoy Pain Free Anal Sex & Ditch the Anal Desensitiser

What are your thoughts on, and experiences of, anal sex? The most common concern surrounding using anal sex toys & other anal sexual play is relieving discomfort due to this area’s renowned tightness and sensitivity. In this guide I will reveal how you can enjoy pain free anal sex -and why it’s relevant and important to ditch the anal desensitiser.

Dressing Up Your Sex Doll To Make Her More Attractive

Are you a fan of sex dolls? If you’re one of the thousands of sex doll lovers around the world, then you’ll understand just how important clothes are when it comes to styling your love companion. It can be tempting for new love owners to think it’s all about the sex – so why would the clothing matter?
Will Using Anal Sex Toys Make Me Gay?

Will Using Anal Sex Toys Make Me Gay?

Worrying that using butt plugs or other anal sex toys will make you gay seems to be a fear peculiar to cishet men. Today I’m addressing this issue and giving my definitive answer to the regularly asked question, “will using anal sex toys make me gay?”

Sex Up Your Suitcase: What To Pack For A Sexy Vacation

Whatever else you’ve got on your packing checklist, today I’m going to help you sex up your suitcase. I'll also show that no matter what sort of holiday you’re looking forward to, intimate solo or shared erotic pleasure should be a priority. Welcome to my guide to packing for a sexy vacation!

Realistic Sex Dolls Guide: Let’s Stop Sex Doll Stigma

How do you feel about sex dolls? Have you/would you ever use them? How do you feel about people who enjoy using sex dolls? Welcome to my realistic sex dolls guide, where I’ll be exploring the features of these oft-maligned sex toys, and revealing where to get the best quality luxury adult dolls for your intimate pleasure & companionship needs.

Vaginismus: How To Ease Vaginal Tightness

Vaginismus is a condition where the muscles in and around the vagina spasm and painfully tighten during penetration. This tightening is involuntary; the person suffering with vaginismus has no control over it and is unable to make it stop.

Using Ice Cubes In Sex And Masturbation

I really struggle with the heat in summer. It's annoying being far too hot all the time –not to mention the resulting dent in my libido. That said, I've been using ice cubes during sex & masturbation for years, which is certainly a big help during a heatwave. Let me share some of my icy sexual pleasure tips with you here today.