Cara Sutra’s Blog

Welcome to Cara Sutra’s Blog, where you can enjoy erotic writing, sexuality chat, sex and relationship advice, sex toy reviews and a whole lot more. 

Cara Sutra's Blog

There are writer features in the Sex Blogger and Erotic Author spotlight series, guest vibrator and bedroom product reviews with the Pleasure Panel at the Cara Sutra forum, Stampy Pants Rants by Cara Sutra and 100% original erotica written for you to perv in public or private…

“I couldn’t disguise the sexual hunger I felt as I admired her gorgeous breasts. Perfect shape, size… and her small pink nipples already hard and puckered. I lowered my head as she raised hers and took one of her nipples between finger and thumb, rolling it gently between them, as my tongue swirled over the bumpy areola of the other. The flat of my tongue first, then the tip flicking quickly for maximum sensation. Then swapping sides and rolling her now wet nipple between my fingers as I sucked and lapped at the other. The moans she was emitting above me were spurring me to continue…”
– Read more in Girl Date: The First Fuck Is The Sweetest

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Do You Feel Guilty About Secret Sadistic Desires?

By Cara Sutra:
“I’m a vicious sadist – and I secretly harbour cruel, sadistic desires.”
It sounds like the opening line in some sort of therapy group for criminals, doesn’t it? However, there are plenty of people out there who have sadistic desires in a consensual, power exchange way. Do you identify as a sadist in the BDSM community? Do you ever feel guilty about your sadistic desires?


Is Shower Sex Worth The Hassle?

By Cara Sutra:
I’ve had some fantastic shower sex in the past. I’ve also had some pretty naff shower sex, and some shower sex which has been, quite frankly, dangerous. I’ve been thinking about shower sex recently because we’ve just moved into a sparkly new house, and have a couple of showers… one in the en-suite, and one over-bath in the family bathroom. Along with nostalgic memories of shower fun I’ve been thinking something else, too.


BDSM: When Communication Stops After Consent

By Giles English:
In the ideal kinky world, everybody talks before and after doing power exchange: “Communicate, communicate, communicate.”
It’s the standard expectation in the BDSM community, where refusing to talk about kink is a red flag.
And yes, communicating about kink feels like a no-brainer. How else will you both make sure that everything is safe and consensual?


You Don’t Have To Pay Creative Freelancers Who Love Their Job (& Other Bullshit Myths)

By Cara Sutra:
Inexplicably, when you’re freelance/run your own business/work from home/work in a creative niche such as professional blogging, copywriting or marketing, some businesses feel that paying you for your work is just an option, not a requirement. Requesting payment for skilled creative work such as marketing and copywriting can give rise to attitudes anywhere from surprise and reluctance, to offence and flat refusal.


Is There A Difference Between D/s (Dominance/submission) And BDSM?

By Galen Fous:
I think of Ds/BDSM as the yin/Yang of Kink. Together they represent a sublime paradox. Two opposites. One side I consider sacred or light – the noble, romantic day-to-day relationship side of D/s. The other side I view as profane or dark – all that is taboo, forbidden, cruel and fierce within the sexual BDSM aspect.


Self-Perception & Sex: How Do My Opinions Of Myself Affect My Sex Life?

By Cara Sutra:
How I view myself has a big effect on my libido and, consequentially, on my sex life. Self-perception and sexuality is often discussed in sex advice articles, but I find that the majority of these simply focus on increasing your self-confidence in the bedroom so that you can enjoy sex more frequently, in more adventurous ways or just an improved sex life in general. I wanted to explore something beyond a crisis of confidence. How can the ebb and flow of self-perception alter desires towards and actions within masturbation and any shared sexual experiences?


How It Feels Watching Your Partner Fuck Someone Else

By Cara Sutra:
How would you feel if you saw your partner fuck someone else? I guess for many the answer would be colourful variants of pissed off. Catch 5 minutes of a daytime TV chat show to watch lie detector frenzies and accusations of cheating descend into all-out battle. The reality, when we add in consent and pre-discussion, is more complex and nuanced. A partner having sex with someone else doesn’t always mean they’re cheating on you or that you’ll feel betrayed.